Soulmates is a Stupid Idea

The concept that there is one person through all of time and geography that is “perfect” for you is incredibly implausible. No one knows the exact number of humans who have lived and died since the species became legit some 50k yrs ago. There are only educated guesses. Experts postulate anywhere from 13 to 50 billion. So lets low ball it and go with the 13 bill.

Your odds of winning the IL lotto are like 1 in 14 million. Roughly half of the humans are the opposite sex, so this discussion will not include bisexuals (sorry) and go with the low figure of 6.5billion potential mates. Mathematically you are 215 times more likely to win the lotto than to find your mate within this pool of individuals. The odds are more likely that the Cubs will win the next 4 World Series assuming 1:100 risk at preseason. You wanna bet me with those numbers, I promise to keep the juice low?!

"To be stupid and selfish and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness, though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."

-Gustave Flaubert

Most likely there is someone alive somewhere who is a better match for you than the person that you are with. A better listener, a better lover and a better friend. I’m not saying that you aren’t genuinely happy and that you shouldn’t be with your wife or husband. As much as you “can just tell” that you’re with your soul mate.. you are not. I know you can feel it, whatever ‘it” is, although I’m betting that “it” is a manifestation of your personal insecurities, wishful thinking and psychological barf bags filled with intimate and serious puke. Just don’t throw around that word, “soulmate”, as if it has any credence or power outside of chick flicks, Valentine’s Day or Disney. There’s probably someone living in China or India right now who loves you very much who you'll never, ever meet.